You may notice a number of things that indicate signs of depression. These have a range from very slight rainy day drabness to not wanting to get out of bed to not wanting to keep on living. They may show up situationally, most every day, be episodic, monthly, seasonal, or clobber you randomly. They can lead to a feeling of discouragement, having little or no interest in doing things with friends or coworkers, not caring about yourself or others and/or a feeling of being overwhelmed when chances for engagement come your way. Even when things seem from the outside to be going your way, you may not feel like they are. In your body you may have a feeling of heaviness, having to drag through your day and may begin to resent or hate your job, your home life, or even your children. You may have nagging irritability or catch yourself being grumpy, sassy, sarcastic, or even cutting, condescending or pessimistic.
The situational triggers can be feeling stuck, the seeming inability to get something across to someone, feeling unheard, misunderstood, disregarded, disrespected or unable to get a productive problem solving process going. Yuck!
This may have to do with no one or anyone; with a roommate, partner, husband or wife, parent, or in-laws. It may even be people at work, school, sports, comrades, or neighbors.
You may notice that some family members have become too inquisitive, maybe invasive, annoying, and perhaps critical, even demanding. From this you may feel not understood and want to withdraw even further, completing the cycle: feel poorly - interact less – negative comments - feel worse – isolate more.
Emotions tend to build up when there is not someone who hears us. You may feel a sense of internal pressure, perhaps sensitivity, tearfulness, anger. It can lead to lower self-esteem or self-hate because you are not yourself and you do not like this person or the words or hatefulness that comes out of you.
Therapy helps by encouraging you to talk to someone who hears you. By talking you hear yourself and are able to clarify your own thinking, feeling, and behavior. Just getting it out can act as a relief valve for the built up pressure and steam.
Therapy helps to bring your energy back to you when you understand, accept, and bring your dignity back to yourself.
Therapy helps to make long lasting changes for the better when you: stick with it beyond the immediate pains to the point of digging deeper into your belief systems, are able to rethink your opinion of yourself and the world, when you think new thoughts, test new beliefs and therefore are able to practice new coping skills, when you are able to detach from others’ opinions and be true to yourself.
Please see further articles as there are other types of depression and anxiety, physical characteristics, and other symptom groups may also play a role.